Amy tans’ the joy luck club is picturing the relationship between mothers and their daughters born in America. The relationship is weaken by daughters’ disobedience, lack of communication, and even getting along with their mothers seems challenging. For examples, Waverly asked her mom “Ma, what is Chinese torture” because she couldn’t understand her mom expression of love toward her.
This book is about how the mothers and daughters relationship can be weakened by the tragedy and daughters’ disobediences. The mothers feel the pain to see their daughters being raised the way they weren’t raised. Lindo blames herself for Waverly’s’ attitude:
I thought her how American circumstances work…but couldn’t teach her about Chinese character. How to
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Lindo was angry with her and didn’t forgive her behavior. Waverly thinks by ignoring her mother in public, she can have some relief in her relationship with her mother. She sees her mother like an opponent. She doesn’t want to follow her rules, and want to do things by her own. She doesn’t realize that her mother is still controlling her. As time goes on, whenever Waverly want to play chess again, Lindo says “No, it is not so easy anymore”. Since then, Waverly stopped winning. Lena became vulnerable as her mother was incapable of helping her to become a balanced adult. Lena is unable to tell her husband she is not content with her roll in their firm and has a silenced role in their marriage due to her childhood experience. Ying-Ying her mother acted passively toward her because she couldn’t tell her the truth about her past life in china. Ying-Ying felt she didn’t have enough power on her daughter Lena:
“All her life I have watched her as though from a different shore. When she was child I should have slapped her more often for disrespect. But now it is too late”. “If she had chuming, she would see a tiger lady. And she would have a careful
However, this was not done in Waverly’s favor. Waverly felt as if the attention was unnecessary, and that her mom was very selfish to use Waverly’s fame to improve the impression that other people had of her. The mother put all the focus on herself, as
In the memoir of The Glass Castle written by Jeannette Walls, parenting capabilities are not the finest. Anne Frank once said, “Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands.” Although Jeannette Walls’ parents did not give their children good advice at times, they loved them very much; however, two damaging characteristics of their parenting style, selfishness and carelessness, almost destroyed the family and certainly cast a shadow over their childhood. When George Eliot said, “Selfish— a judgment readily passed by those who have never tested their own power of sacrifice,” he was describing a character trait of Jeanette's mother.
From trading pieces of candy for chess pieces, to playing in local tournaments, she transforms into a proficient chess player. Her skills were unmatched in her early years, and she was quickly seen as the first female Grandmaster at the age of twelve. This is her departure from what would appear to be a “normal” life. Furthermore, she meets a mentor, Lau Po, and improves at playing chess. This mirrors the Hero’s Journey, in how both a Hero, and Waverly, must traverse through calls of action, meet a mentor, and transform.
Waverly is taking her mom’s advice because at first she was losing a lot of pieces and was barely winning, and now she is still winning, just with more security. Waverly has taken her mother’s advice even though she was annoyed by her mom telling her what to do and how to win even though she was already always
In the “Royal Beating” Flo lists all of the ways, she feels that Rose has been disrespectful towards her (Munro 1134) and then goes and gets Rose’s father to punish her. Once the punishment has been dealt they go back to normal and their lives go on. In “Rules of the Game” the way Waverly describes her mother’s reaction you know that she is very angry at her. “My mother’s eyes turned into dangerous black slits. She had no words for me, just sharp silence.”
Waverly’s selfish caused conflict between her family and herself. One conflict that she is having is how she fights with her brothers. One example from the story is, “Why does she get to play and we do all the work. ” complained Vincent.
(8). This section of the story further suggests that Waverly is becoming disobedient toward her mother rather than staying as the obedient girl that she had been in the earlier parts of the story. Furthermore, this defiance toward her mother is able to lead to her obtaining independence
In both the stories, in which both families include a mother who is the first generation immigrant and the daughter who is an American citizen, their relation is very complex because of their distinct thinking. Jing-Mei’s mother has always had a very high expectation for Jing-Mei. Her mother
In the narrative “Rules of the game” Waverly is the main character who changes throughout the story. First, How Waverly treats her brothers in the beginning versus the end. At the start of the story Waverly spends time with them like when they would go explore their neighborhood. Toward the end however she makes her brothers do her chores this way she can spend more time on chess rather than doing things with her brothers or chores.
The one exception to this was Ying ying, who fell apart, and never quite found her
At first Waverly was curious as to why a stranger would want to play with her, but she gave in and looked at her mom for a sign of approval. Waverly narrates: “A man who watched me play in the park suggested that my mother allow me to play in local chess tournaments. My mother smiled graciously” ( Tan, “Rules of the Game”). Waverly’s mother allows her to go and play chess with an old man showing that
She credits her success to her mother’s lesson of the power of invisible strength. She recounts how “my mother taught me the art of invisible strength. It was a strategy for winning arguments, respect from others, and eventually, though neither of us knew it at the time, chess games.” (p. 89) Waverly goes on to have a lucrative career as an attorney, while her mother 's power over her gradually wanes reminiscent of the Taitai’s power over Lindo.
Her intentions are not meant for heartbreaks, but for the well-being of her babies. Support Point # 2- Suyuan’s top priority is to educate Jing-mei as ideal daughter; however, high expectations are difficult to achieve causing problems and leading bitterness into the relationship. Support Point
Throughout the entire novel, the mothers and daughters face inner struggles, family conflict, and societal collision. The divergence of cultures produces tension and miscommunication, which effectively causes the collision of American morals, beliefs, and priorities with Chinese culture which
This stark contrast of home lives showcases how different cultures approach motherhood, which really reinforces the idea of being American versus being Chinese that is explored so much in this novel. Lena desperately wants her mother to understand the expectations associated with motherhood in America, and doesn’t understand why her relationship with her mother is so much more broken than her peers’ relationships. Without these expectations from both Lena and Ying-Ying about how it is acceptable to mother, their relationship would have endured significantly less