It is the tragic truth that many children have to face abuse while growing up, this influences the kind of person they become. Kerry Kletter’s novel, The First Time She Drowned, displays several forms of abuse a child may experience, many of which prove to have lasting effects on the characters. Through research, it is proven how abuse can affect a child's development. Whether the abuse is physical, verbal or sexual it changes a person, impacting their life. Abuse creates trauma for a person making their lives harder and changing the way they view the world. Kletter uses the O’Malley family to display the topic of abuse throughout her novel. She demonstrates to her readers that people who suffer from childhood abuse struggle to live a healthy …show more content…
The burden of their trauma creates strains within their relationships. One of the biggest obstacles for the victims is trust issues that they develop from the abuse. Primarily, Cassie O’Malley lacks trust in her therapist due to her parents' neglect. Kletter writes in her novel; “I Am angry with myself for being manipulated into trusting her, suckered into believing I’d get what I needed.” (Kletter 232) Cassie feels foolish for trusting her therapist when a minor inconvenience occurs. Thinking she is gullible for believing her therapist can help. Cassie is used to getting let down when she seeks help from her parents; she feels like she should have known better than to trust anyone with her problems. Causing her to mistrust her therapist's advice and intentions. Nonetheless, Cassie also loses trust in her mother as a result of abuse. When Cassie becomes a pre-teen she is put into a situation where she has to trust her mother with her safety. She says “It was an act of faith, and all I had to do was trust my mother would catch me. But my legs felt like they belonged to someone else the way I couldn’t stop them from shaking.” (Kletter 77) In this situation, Cassie feels that her mother will not be able to protect her from harm. This is a result of her mother's abuse constantly making her feel hurt, frightened and betrayed growing up. As Cassie matures, the trust she has in her mother to keep her …show more content…
Early on in the novel, Cassie does not allow herself to be vulnerable to others. She does not “want to be this cold, defensive person.” (Kletter 160) Regardless of her feeling this way she cannot stop herself. The behavior that makes her appear heartless, is the way she protects herself from being hurt again. It gives her control over her life, control that she did not have when she was vulnerable and abused. However, this makes it hard to connect and build relationships with others. Moreover, Bev, Cassie’s mother, also endured abuse as a child and to survive she takes her pain out on others; “Now in her desperation to stay afloat, she continues to pull down everyone who would try to love her.” (Kletter 320) The pain of Bev’s trauma is too much for her to handle. She uses those who love her as an outlet for her anger and torment. Passing her pain to others as a way of unburdening herself from her wounds. Making people resent and loathe her. These habits make it difficult for people to love and support Bev, ultimately ruining her relationships. Undoubtedly, intergenerational trauma plays a role in the O’Malley family's ability to build strong connections. It is proven in Katherine Montweiler’s novel, Neglect and Childhood Trauma in Frankenstein and Wuthering Heights: Writing the Domestic (Abuse) Novel, “that in denying children
Now at 12 years old she still carries around her childhood trauma. Ever since the incident she has had trouble with everyday life, that is until she got a therapist. After the course of a few years, she had begun healing. Then one day during a session with the therapist he suggested that Cassandra should go to summer camp to improve on her social skills. Ever since then she had been loathing for the day to come.
In The 5th Wave, a main theme is to trust no one. This is a theme relevant to the book because the Others disguised themselves as humans and this was kept as secret for a big portion of the story. When it was revealed, Cassie lost her trust and was in a state of shock. An example in the story would be when Evan, Cassie’s love interest, was revealed to be an Other. This event shows that anybody can be an Other so in order to survive you can’t trust anybody.
Throughout the overview if the book, Melinda (the victim) busted a party during the summer, by calling the police. In doing so, the problem escalated that her former friends isolated themselves from her, as well as people she didn’t know disliked her as well. To Melinda, her safest place was her being alone, inside her own head, but she knows that’s not safe. Thee something she tries not to think about that night at the party. She would eventually have to tell the truth, but overall,
Her parents tried to teach her to do the right thing, but it was hard when they continued to show her that doing wrong was okay. Her Father loves his children dearly and wants nothing more than to love them unconditionally like they deserve. He has become an alcoholic and his wife just wasn’t ready to be a mother. He has to force her into loving her family, which leads to him drinking even more. Her father was proud of Jeannette when she came home beat up simply because Jeannette lied and said she’d hurt the other girls worse.
When Jeannette writes about how her parents allowed her and her siblings to do anything they wanted, she explains how her, “Mom believed that children shouldn’t be burdened with a lot of rules and restrictions… She felt it was good for kids to do what they wanted because they learned a lot from their mistakes. ” (Walls 59). Jeanette’s mom is not the type of mother that gives their children rules, but by doing so she is putting her children in more danger. So from a young age, Jeannette has already had many dangerous experiences, which makes her a stronger person over time.
In the novel Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry by Mildred D. Taylor, Cassie being exposed to the harsh actions of the world showcases a loss of innocence story in which she also learned the motives of people's actions. First of all, shortly after Cassie was ridiculed by Mr.Barnett and thrown onto the street by Mr.Simms for simply standing in front of Lillian Jean, she narrates, “No day in all my life had ever been as cruel as this one.”(116). Since Cassie never had a personal experience of being abused by white people, Mr.Simms’ actions took her by surprise and left her shocked about what had occurred. In a situation, when someone is more experienced such as a mother or father, they would act more rationally because they had already lost their innocence of how they think the world is like, but when someone has not been in a certain situation like that, they may act more irrationally, such as claiming that it was one of the worst days of their life.
Her book describes the hardship and struggle she faced growing up in Little Rock and what it was like to be hurt and abused all throughout high school.
How Cassie interacts with negative use of power forces Cassie to grow up and come of age. Standing up for little man shows how Cassie is taking responsibility and protecting him. Cassie learns how it is sometimes necessary to stand up for herself. Learning how to control her temper makes her grow up and learn how the world
Jeannette narrowly escapes rape, but because her father exploits her in a way that makes it seem like she would consent to underage sex, she is abused. The sexual abuse Jeannette suffers results in her having more trust in her own intuition as she
“She said that sexual assault was a crime of perception. “If you don’t think you’re hurt, then you aren’t (Walls 184).” Rosemary makes Jeannette feel like she is insignificant to her and doesn’t make the effort to stick up for her child. At this point, Jeannette must feel worthless to her mother, bringing her self-esteem to a low.
She wouldn’t have learned all of the things she learned if she didn’t experience them herself. Most of all, she gained the heart to go to school and get a job because she was able to see with her own eyes what she wanted to be, instead of being guided and told what to do with her life. If she was, then she wouldn't have gained this passion to want to succeed since she would have been put in a mindset where everything in life is handed to her. Even though Jeannette was put in a very dangerous position with Billy, without fully experiencing the consequences of being with a predator, she could have later on been put in the same situation, but since she never got to see how much damage an attacker can cause, she would have become a victim. So many young women today are becoming victims because they never learn how serious situations like this can
Melinda was raped as a young girl heading into her first year of high school and what happened after that was a catastrophe and would change her life and her peers view of her. Melinda perpetually haunted by her treacherous past memories struggled to stay happy and sane throughout her overwhelming first year of high school. Melinda evolves over time as she longs to be her past happy self again she slowly but surely begins to regain her happiness and self-confidence. With life-changing events coming at Melinda every which way, she experiences the highs and the lows and finds little things in life like her extraordinary passion for art to help her get through the toughest times in her life. This story will make your heart melt with sorrow and compassion, but also bring to you a remarkable story with realistic like events and settings.
Afterward, Melinda finally decided to talk to her mother about the situation. This film talk about a centered on a character who gains strength over time to overcome trauma. When necessary, seek help from the outside world (counselor, friend, parents, etc.) to talk about problems. Don’t let fears back ou off, it will only harm yourself and release the evilness. At the beginning of the movie, Melinda used a black pen draw
There are many times that the characters are forced to make life-changing choices. In the beginning of the book, Cassie comes across a man in a soldier’s uniform with a large abdominal wound while she is searching for supplies in a gas station. She does not know if he is human or not, so she has to choose to trust him, shoot him, or leave him. This choice is very reflective on who she is as a person, as whichever one she chooses can change what kind of person she is. If she decided to trust him, she could be betrayed and he could kill her, but if she left him there and he was a human, she would have to live with the guilt forever.
She also gives herself hope that she will eventually find Sammy. The symbolism of the name Cassiopeia can develope Cassie into a more dynamic